Motherhood doesn’t exist in isolation.
Two women can love their children just as deeply, want motherhood just as much, and still have completely different experiences of it.
In this episode, I talk about one of the most overlooked and rarely named factors shaping motherhood: the person you have children with, or raise children with.
This is not about blame, judgement, or “choosing wrong”. It’s about understanding the environment you are mothering inside of, and why motherhood can feel heavier than expected for some women.
We explore:
Why your partner is part of your motherhood ecosystem
Emotional regulation, nervous system load, and co-regulation
Mental load, initiative, and the slow build of resentment
Capacity, illness, trauma, burnout and long-term compensation
Money, financial security, and the hidden costs carried by mothers
Why motherhood looks easier for some mums and not others
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