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Am I The Asshole? Is It Cheating If We Were on a Break?
Have you ever wondered if you’re the asshole in your sex life and relationships? Today, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory - and not the good kind. One listener hooked up with someone else while they were on a break, and now her partner says she can’t be trusted. Who’s the asshole here? Another listener wants to spice it up in the bedroom, but her husband with a kinky past sees her as a “delicate little angel.” Sounds like a case of the classic Madonna-Whore complex. What about when your partner won’t perform oral sex? Are you the asshole for craving it? We get into all this and more.
In today’s episode, you’ll learn:
The importance of identifying your sexual fantasies
How to work through ultimatums in relationships
Why your sex life should evolve over time
Show Notes:
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Hotline Calls: How to Fantasize Together
The Sex With Emily Hotline is open! On this episode, I’m joined by my Producer, Erica, as we talk about disappearing erections, prostate massages, and so much more.
First, what do you do when your partner has health issues that cause them to lose their erections? I give one caller ideas for how to work around this issue and thoughts on what might be causing it in the first place. Next, why don’t couples fantasize together more often? A couple calls in to share their sexual fantasies, and we give you inspo on how to do the same with your partner. When your partner wants a prostate massage, how do you pull it off? I tell you what to feel for, how to apply pressure and fun toys you can use. Finally, when your partner has never had an orgasm before, how can you help? And should you?
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why erectile challenges aren’t just about the penis—and how you can spice things up while finding solutions
How to co-create fantasies with your partner for hotter, more connected sex
The secret to unlocking prostate pleasure (and why so many men are missing out)
Show Notes:
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How to Use Your Hands: Fingering & Handjobs
Two of your most powerful sex accessories? Your hands. Hands set the tone of your sexual energy. For example, caressing their cheek while you make out versus pinning their hands down while you have sex. And while we talk a lot about what to do with our mouths or genitals on this show, today I’m focusing on a lost art: hand play. Specifically, how to finger, give a hand job, and use your hands with sexual intention.
Today, my Producer, Erica, and I first share how to penetrate a vulva with your fingers. We give you tricks to stimulate the labia and clitoris, different forms of pressure and touch, and how to find the G-spot when you finger. Next, we give the penis some love with hand job techniques and upgrades like toy play and perineum stimulation. Finally, we discuss secondary erogenous zones and answer your hand play questions.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why hand play—fingering and handjobs—is the underrated pleasure tool you need to master.
How to turn up the heat with expert hand techniques for both vulvas and penises.
The secret to making manual stimulation feel even better than penetrative sex.
Show Notes:
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42:23
Hotline Calls: Strip Clubs & Sex Boundaries
It’s Hotline Calls time! And we’ve got one common theme: trust - the foundation of hot sex. Because when you trust yourself and the person you’re with, you can fully let go in bed and relax into your deepest pleasure.
When oral sex gets too rough, how can you ask your partner to be more gentle and respectful? I’ve got some thoughts. When your partner doesn’t love booty play – but you definitely do – can you still ask for a rim job? Let’s say your partner goes to strip clubs, and it makes you super uncomfortable. How do you set boundaries together? Finally, when you’re the non-primary partner in a polyamorous relationship, what resources can you turn to for advice & guidance?
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to communicate boundaries and advocate for your pleasure in oral sex (without the sore throat aftermath)
The best ways to introduce your partner to rimming—yes, even if they’re hesitant
How to navigate mismatched libidos, strip club discomfort, and polyamory as a secondary partner
Show Notes:
Polysecure, Jessica Fern: Bookshop | Barnes & Noble
Opening Up, Tristan Taormino: Amazon | Barnes & Noble
Open Deeply, Kate Loree: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & Noble
“The Challenges of Being a Secondary,” Conscious Polyamory
“Being Secondary While Putting Yourself First,” Multiamory
Polyamory in BLACK!
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How to Be a Better Partner w/ John Kim & Vanessa Bennett
Dating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals.
With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why “the one” is a myth, how to wean ourselves off codependency and how to replace obligatory sex with erotic collaboration.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why “The One” is a myth and what actually makes relationships last
How to turn obligatory sex into erotic collaboration
The secret to avoiding resentment before it ruins your connection
Show Notes:
More John Kim: Instagram | Website | Book
More Vanessa Bennett: Instagram | Website | Book
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